Children of the authoritative teacher model grow up feeling loved, respected, have high self-esteem, and learn to be cooperative and respectful with others. This is a recipe for adult success.
Children raised by authoritarian parents tend to grow up as fearful, overly submissive, low-esteemed adults. The other response is to retaliate against parents as they get older and bigger, sometimes becoming unmanageable when children strike back, using their power against their parents. These children feel unloved and rejected.
Children of permissive parents often grow up selfish, uncooperative and demanding in all their relationships. They, too, feel unloved because there is no love in the parents who are victims. Parents feel no love but feel tons of resentment. When these children grow up, they can become violent to their spouses and children.
Uninvolved parenting, as a result, teens generally show similar patterns of behavior as adolescents raised in permissive homes and they may also demonstrate impulsive behaviors due to issues with self-regulation. They have low self-esteem and are less competent than their peers.
Why do parenting styles differ?
The parents are bringing their experiences, cultural differences, background, socio-economic status, education level and religion when raising their children. Child behavior and temper could influence parenting style as well. Whereas a cooperative, motivated, and the responsible teen might be more likely to have parents who exercise an authoritative parenting style, an uncooperative, immature, and irresponsible teen may be more likely to elicit a parenting style that is authoritarian or uninvolved. Parenting styles might also differ between parents (e.g. one parent could be permissive while the other parent is authoritarian). In this situation, parents should discuss, in private, acceptable and unacceptable child behaviors and those areas where they can reach agreement on parenting their child to avoid favoritism for one of the parents and argument between the couple.